Skills Development - Personal Excellence (2023)

Have you ever tried to achievea goal but achieved mediocre results?

Have you ever seen other people achieve their goals effortlessly and wonder how they do that?

This is where skills development comes in. In this post, I share more about skills development, why it’s an important part of goal achievement, and how to go about doing it.

What is Skills Development?

Skills development is the process of (1) identifying your skill gaps, and (2)developing and honing these skills. It is important because your skills determine your ability to execute your plans with success.

Imagine a carpentertrying to build a house. He has the raw materialsbut lacks goodwood working tools. He has, however, a flimsy hammer and a small screwdriver. Without the right tools like a hand saw, hecan’t turnthese raw materialsinto house building pieces.

It’s the same with goal achievement. In goal achievement, your skills are your tools. The house is your goal. Just as you need the right tools to build a house, you need the right skills to build your goal.

Without the right skills, you will only frustrate yourself, waste your time, and spend a lot of time dealing with rudimentary issues caused by the lack of knowledge or lack of skills, as opposed to progressing inyourgoal. While difficulty and struggle is partand parcelof any goal pursuit, without the right skills, you find yourself struggling more than necessary. Worse still, thisstruggle is unconstructive and doesn’thelp you move forward.

Why Skills Development is Neglected

Yet, why is skills development often neglected?

There are two main reasons.

Firstly, people are oftenimpressed by what others have accomplishedwithout realizing what they went through to get there. We see theiraccolades and victories, and make gross assumptions about what it takes to succeed. Then we become disappointed when we attempt the goal, only to find outthat it’s not as easy as it seems.

This isverycommon inblogging. People seebig name internet “gurus” making 6–7 figure income from blogging. Thinking that it’s easy, and perhaps perpetuated by the claims of saidgurus who happen to sell you courses claiming to help youdo the same, these folksstart blogging as well, expectingto achieve the same resultsin a short period oftime. They becomerudely awakened when they don’t even get a trickle of trafficafter a fewmonths,much less earnan income. Some press on; many give up.

Secondly, many of us can be heavily self-critical. We look at how successful others are — the top coaches, internet gurus, award-winning performers, winners of society — andconclude that we can never achieve the same. We feel that these people are somehow blessed with some special power that we don’t have. I often have clients who say they want to achieve XYZ goal, but after seeing very established folks in the field, feel unconfident about their abilities. They then wonder, What makes me think that I can succeed? I should just give up because these people are already so good and experienced. Who am I to compete?

Yet, it’s aboutskills development. When we see others’ successes, what we don’t see are the countlesshours they spent behind the scenes, honing their craft, and building their skills. What we see as “talent” in others is the result of their 10,000 hours of hard workwhere raw passion andhumanpotential are turnedinto hard skills. Skills development is where we turn from beginnerto novice, to intermediate, to senior, to expert. And henceforth, havingthe ability to conquer our goal.

Example: My Writing

When I started my blog, I knew that blog writing would be an important skill to master. Yet, I was not an English major; neither hadI taken anywriting courses before. I was a Business student and in business school we did tons of project workand case studies — nothing to do withliterary writing.Theoneclass I took that came closest to writing wasaBusiness Communications module, and even then what was taught was totally different fromblog writing.

Sobefore I started my blog,I spent weeks readingupon good content writing, including selecting great topics,writing enticing headlines, and understanding traitsof good articles. I read blogslikeCopyblogger, Men with Pens and Zen To Done. I also analyzed articles from popular blogs, including blogs I followed, to understand how they structured their posts. After all, if they were doing well, they must be doing something right! I would dissect each article as I tried to understand theauthor’s thinking process, and then soughttoapplythat in my writing. I also created an article roadmapandbrainstormed on topics to write on, topics that (a) werepopular, (b) metpeople’s needs, and (c) were timeless.

Even then, my initial articles took really long to write. I remember my first series was on “How To Find Your Life Purpose” as purpose is the starting point of a consciouslife. I took over a week to craft out the 7-part series; some parts were totally rewritten before I published them! Some of my earlier articles were pretty crappy too.I would readthemand cringe, thinking, Did I actually write this??I would delete the ones that were not so relevant, while rewriting others to improve the content.In fact, this very article you’re reading now was written in 2009 and I’m now rewriting it in 2016.

But I improved. I got better. Today, I’d like to think that my writing is much sharper and on point. My language skills have also improved as I’m more aware of grammatical nuances. I’m more aware of the nuances between American and British English, including punctuation oddities (in Singapore we use British English, though I write in American English here as a higher proportion of PE readers are from the U.S.). Some of my articles have been used in school curriculum, media publications, and business newsletters; many have been shared on forums and social media.

Did these happen overnight? No, whatever little writing skills I have today didn’t magicallyhappen. Neither was I “born” with the ability to write. They came from a conscious effort to build my skills, to be a better writer.

The same goes for other skills that I didn’t know and had to build at the start of my business journey: coaching, training, new media, responsive web design, web marketing, among many others. Doing sohas helped methrivein my goal to pursue my passion.

Likewise, if you are starting in a new goal, it’s about building your skills first. Save for rare situations where one is simply born with a natural predisposition in something (say, Mariah Carey and her five-octave vocal range, though she has acknowledged that her whistle register wasn’t just an innate abilitybut came from lots of practice^[1]), most people cultivate their talent throughmany hours of hard work. The best coach wasn’t born with coaching skills; he learns it. The best musician wasn’t born with the skillto play musical instruments;he learns it. All these are skills that are developed consciously. And you can do the same too. :)

Your Skills Development: Hard and Soft Skills

In developing your skills, I’d like you to consider two groups of skills:

• Hard skills: Skills relating to any specific task; they are usuallyeasilyquantifiable. They tend to be knowledge-based, such as proficiency in a subject, certification, and technicalskills. Fluency in Spanish, skills in XYZ software,graphic design, and programming are all hard skills.
• Soft skills: Skills relating to personality and tend to be transferable, such as communication, leadership, time management, stress management, decision making, adaptability, ability to deal with adversity, and networking.

It’s obvious why hard skills are important. You need domain-level knowledge to thrive in a goal.To be a successful YouTuber, you should at least have some video editing skills. To be a good blogger, you shouldhave goodwriting skills and a goodcommand of the language. To be a good software engineer, you need to knowprogramming.

But many people miss out on soft skills. For example,a writer may insist heis great at writing but get 0 book sales. Assuming his writing skills are top-notch, perhaps he lackscertain soft skills necessary for success, like networking, pitching,and self-marketing.After all, writing a successful book isn’t just about having good writingskills:

• You need to pitch to publishers/collaborators.
• You need to market yourself to people.
• You need insightfulness that helps you understand what people wantand how to writestories thatresonate with people.

Many best-selling authors today aren’t necessary good writers but are eitherpersonalities with a large following(some of these folksdon’t even write their ownbooks but use a ghost writer) or everyday people with a storythat resonates withan audience (Twilight,Fifty Shades of Grey).

That’s not to say you focus on soft skills over knowledge. Both hard and soft skills are important.When you succeed based on only soft skills but with no hard skills, you lack the foundation to create new wins. It’s a matter of time before people call you out on your bullshit. When you have only hard but no soft skills, you lack the savviness tohustle and showcase your talent to a bigger crowdout there. Both skills are equally important and complementary to each other.

How to Start Developing Skills

1) Start with the core skills

If you’re starting from ground zero, such as learning programming when you don’t know anything about coding,it can be intimidating as there are a multitude of things to learn. Start with core skills first.

• Core skillsare skills youabsolutely needtosucceed in your goal. They have a direct impact on your success.
• Secondary skillsare of lower importance vs. the core skills. While they accentuate your success, your expertise in them do not make or break your goal.

For example, when I started my business, there were many skills I had to pick up. I started with the core skills that I felt would be instrumental to my success: writing, coaching, training, and web marketing. These skills had amake-or-breakeffect on my goal. On the other hand, Pinterest, Facebook marketing, Twitter, and fancy web design, while helpful,were not instrumental to my success. These were consequently my secondary skills. While I took some time to learn the secondaryskills, I dedicated the bulk of my time to mastering my core skills.

What determines a core or secondary skill? It depends on your goal. As long as the skillhas a critical impact on your goal, it is considereda core skill.If your goal is to be a life coach with a team ofsub-coaches, then life coaching, leadership, team management, and trainingwill be your core skills. If your goal is to be a life coach with an online setup, then life coaching, web marketing, content writing, and good technical skills will be your core skills.

In times when it’snot effective tolearncertain skills, I recommend tooutsource instead. Read my outsourcing guide here.

2)Break into littlesteps

With each skill, break the learninginto small steps.

Back when I was learning life coaching, I identifiedthesub-skills that would make a good coach, including listening skills, questioning skills, empathy, and patience. I subsequently gave myself a rating of 1–10 on each skill and worked on these skillsby giving free sessions, taking a coaching workshop, reading books, and most importantly, working with people. I also developed my own coaching guidebook, which is myrepository of coaching concepts and frameworks to coachpeople.I wouldcollect feedback and review my performance after each coaching session, including identifying things that I did and didn’t do well in, so I could improve.

Doing these steps helped me become proficient quickly. I moved from coaching 1 person, to 2, to 4, to 8, to 10 people within a few months. Soon I was coaching my 20th client, and then my 50th, and then my 100th. Before long I was seeing clear trends in my clients’ aspirations andproblems and could helpthem in a pinpointed manner. I also becameproficient whereI was able to accurately analyze each client’s problems with a brief backgroundand simplequestions, and subsequently guide them out of their mental blocks.

Developing a skill can be a lofty project, so break it up into little chunks. Don’t expect to reach“master” status right away but focus on conquering each section, one bit at a time.For seemingly unquantifiable soft skills, assign quantifiable milestones to guide you. For example, if you want to cultivate networking skills, you can start by going to X new events and reaching out toX new people each week, and subsequently practice how you introduce yourself and pitch your ideas to others, iterate accordingly, and so on.

Read:The Power of Little Changes

3) Learn from the best

One of the best ways to learn is to learn from the best. That’s because you can understand from someone who’s “been there done that” and get their wisdom rather thanproceed unguided. Here are some tips:

1. Who are the people you know,whohave experiencein this area? Approach them for advice. Ask them: How should you build your skill in this area?Do they have any tips for you?What should you watch out on?
2. Engage a coach. Getting a coach isn’t cheap, but if you have the financial resources and you get the right coach, you can shavehundreds of hours offyour learning curve. My clients, through our sessions together, have saved hundreds of hours and sped ahead in their goals, compared to if they had struggled and dealt with these issues alone.
3. Get a mentor. Is there a senior in your company or your network of contacts who would be willing to mentor you?
4. Study experts in the industry. Who are the experts in your field? Study them and understand what makes them so good at what they do.Modeltheir behavior, while adapting it to fit you.

4) Research

Research togather different insights and perspectives. The internet has made information more accessible than ever. Research via these tools:

• Blogs.Blogs have become the primary waywe receive information. Use Google to findnew blogs. Bookmark the blogsthat look promising.
• Podcasts. In our modern world where most of our time is spent at computers, I find audio a refreshing way to learn. iTunes and Stitcherare podcast directories with tonsof free podcasts, while Audibleis an audio book portal (it’s a premium service, though your first audio book is free).PE Podcast is listedoniTunesandStitcher.
• Books. Books are great sources of information as they are essentially very structured forms of content, usually a collection of the author’s best wisdom on the topic. Is there a library where you live? If so, head to the library and borrow books related to the subject. If not, hit the bookstores and check out their recommended books.
• Free online courses. Online courses has become a huge thing in recent years. Here are somefree course portals, including from renowned universities:
  • Coursera
  • edX
  • Harvard online courses
  • Stanford online courses
  • Academic Earth

5) Attend trainings

Courses and workshops are great waysto quickly develop skills. Think of it as a concentrated source of information that has been organized into a structuredprogram for your learning. Depending on the workshop, some workshops with a lot of activities allow for experiential learning, which means you get hands-on practice rather than learning through theory via reading. When you attend a training, you are in the company of like-minds, which gives you addedmotivation and social support in your goal.

When looking for a training, be careful to look for one with actual content and taught by a credible trainer. Ask for a breakdown of the course curriculum. There are many courses today that are filled with fluff and taught bypeoplewho are more interested in profits than in the teaching, and you want to stay away from these.

6)Take action

With all that said and done, it comes down to doing.Like I share in this article, doing helps you learn faster than simply reading.

Earlier in the article, I shared that I built my coaching skills by reading up, taking a workshop, and working with people. The latter was the most crucial part of my learning process, for if I had never practiced by working with real people, I would never have knownwhat are the things people need help in, how to best help them, and whether my methods work. This is something I mentioned inAre Coaching Courses Necessary To Be a Coach?— ultimately, what builds expertiseisn’t theory,but practice. This is especially so if your skill has a actionablecomponent. That’s when you know how good you are, your blind spots, the gap between hypothesis and reality, and your areas for improvement.

“Doing” here depends on the skill you are building. If you’re learning to program, it means writing code, creating simple software,and testing them. If you are learning public speaking, it means practicing in front of the mirror, taping yourself and reviewing your performance, and speaking in front of real people, events.

While the action phase is probably the scariest phase of all, it is the most rewarding phase because that’s when you learn the most. That’s when you stop hiding in a bubble, get out of your comfort zone, and jump-start your learning. :) The more hours you put in, the better you will become. Allocate time to practice each day.

Read:10,000 Hours To Develop TalentandIs Your Goal Worth 30 Minutes of Your Time Every Day?

What Skills Do You Need to Develop?

1. What is a goal you’re working on now?
2. What are the hard and soft skills needed to pursue this goal?
3. Out of these skills, which are the core skills and which are the secondary skills?
4. For your core skills, how can you start developing them? How can you apply the above tips?
5. When can you start taking action on these steps?

Start developing your skills and soon enough, you will see the rewards of your labor. :)

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